No, what you’re feeling is probably normal.

Context: Someone who I suspect has an odd crush on me posted the following on Facebook:

“I probably shouldn’t be this mad or jealous. But I am. Whatever.”

This was after I entered a relationship with someone else.

I suppose I’m a coward for writing all of this and not saying it to her face. But I’ll write anyway. 

I’m kind of mixed here. I do sincerely feel bad for you, but I’m not into you. I’m sorry.

I’ve been in your situation so many times it’s really quite absurd. I know exactly how you feel. It’s a horrible feeling, it’s really painful and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

If it does make you feel any better, I have flaws. There are things you don’t know about me. There are things my friends don’t know about me. Things I honestly fear telling them, because I fear getting the weird looks or judged for what I think I might actually be. It’s not their fault that I can’t tell them. It’s just that I prefer to keep certain things to myself, or to few others, and only those relevant to it. 

I think we are fundamentally very different people. You’re incredibly extroverted, 24/7. Which is fine. I give you a lot of credit for that, because I’m usually incredibly introverted until I get to know someone better, and then I’ll start talking.  Granted, the way I met my girlfriend was an exception to this rule, but it’s still a general principle about me. 

You are very artsy. I hold an appreciation for art, but I could never pursue a career in it. I find science, math, and its applications interesting, and I’d like to pursue a career in those fields. You, I’m not certain.

I tend to hold sentimental value in strange things, or different things than others. You may gush over a cute photo with cute captions on Tumblr that I may straight up laugh at. I may show you something of sentimental value to me (e.g. a couple of unused condoms with an incredibly complicated backstory* to them), and you may wonder why the hell I would be so pathetic as to hold a sentimental value in a contraceptive tool. 

I can’t pretend to like you. I can’t change myself to fit your ideals of what you think I am. I’ve learned this the hard way many times over: you cannot fall into the trap of confusing fantasy with reality. You cannot fall in love with someone over their looks, their awkwardness, the peer pressure brought upon you, your sexual desires. You need to fall in love with someone for who they really are. In spite of the flaws. Which I believe you know astoundingly little about. 

My current girlfriend, we have talked to each other about our flaws. Our interests. I still think she’s an amazing person nonetheless, and I consider myself an incredibly lucky person for being with her. I consider her a person of integrity considering what I have already told her, and what more I have yet to tell her about me, and yet still deciding to stick with me. 

Can you do that? Maybe. I’m not sure. Could I do that? Maybe. But there needs to be an attraction first. Which I lack. If I’m not interested in you from the get-go, there’s no way I could force myself into it. 

I’m sorry you feel jealous. I’m sorry you’re in such a shitty situation. I’m sorry you feel mad, jealous, I sympathize. But I’m not interested.

Take a break, maybe. Last time I was seriously into someone and I finally figured out it wouldn’t pan out, I just decided to take a break from girls. It was relaxing. It gave me time to recollect, to not worry for a bit. 

Do your best to recover. 

*If you really want to hear the story behind the condoms do let me know. I actually have two rather humorous condom-related stories, the first a bit more personal than the second. 

maelstromantic:

The man takes 100 mph pucks to the face on a regular basis, and you ask him if a little shove to the chest hurt.

This guy is my man. 

Seriously. He’s one of the few Devils I remember since I was younger who’s still on the team, him and Patrik Elias. With Stephen Gionta I can still kind of remember Brian. 

I liked Scott Stevens, Scott Niedermayer, Ken Daneyko, Scott Gomez (I mean, he did go to the Rangers then Canadiens but still).

I have a 2001 NHL game that I really want to play now. For the nostalgia.

And yeah, there were a lot of Scotts. 

(via anchored-bythesea)

itchangesyou:

Love him<333

This needs a reblog. Badly.

itchangesyou:

Love him<333

This needs a reblog. Badly.

That moment when you know everything’s going to work out.

So close and yet so far.

I actually had a moderately crappy day that I&#8217;m willing to talk about!

I actually had a moderately crappy day that I’m willing to talk about!

(via annoying-facebook-girl)

Maybe if I write something stupid enough on here someone will screencap it and make it famous on tumblr. YES. I said it. Tuh-um-buh-lerrrr. Bite me. — Ezarez
logicallyretarded:

oooh, almost had it there, bryan.


I want to say this is satire. So badly. 

logicallyretarded:

oooh, almost had it there, bryan.

I want to say this is satire. So badly. 

(via stupidlycreative)

Other than a purely college-oriented trip to Boston and the first night of spring break, this is pretty much what happened.

Dammit, spring break relatively sucked this year. 

Other than a purely college-oriented trip to Boston and the first night of spring break, this is pretty much what happened.

Dammit, spring break relatively sucked this year. 

(via annoying-facebook-girl)

Usually when I text someone I want them to text back.

But I’ve never felt that so much hinged on one message, one conversation.

Please, just answer!

“…I arrived at Herrlingen at 7:00 a.m. My father was at breakfast. A cup was quickly brought for me and we breakfasted together, afterwards taking a stroll in the garden.

‘At twelve o’clock to-day two Generals are coming to discuss my future employment,’ my father started the conversation. ‘So today will decide what is planned for me; whether a People’s Court or a new command in the East.’

‘Would you accept such a command,’ I asked.

He took me by the arm, and replied: ‘My dear boy, our enemy in the East is so terrible that every other consideration has to give way before it. If he succeeds in overrunning Europe, even only temporarily, it will be the end of everything which has made life appear worth living. Of course I would go.’

Shortly before twelve o’clock, my father went to his room on the first floor and changed from the brown civilian jacket which he usually wore over riding-breeches, to his Africa tunic, which was his favorite uniform on account of its open collar.

At about twelve o’clock a dark-green car with a Berlin number stopped in front of our garden gate. The only men in the house apart from my father, were Captain Aldinger [Rommel’s aide] , a badly wounded war-veteran corporal and myself. Two generals - Burgdorf, a powerful florid man, and Maisel, small and slender - alighted from the car and entered the house. They were respectful and courteous and asked my father’s permission to speak to him alone. Aldinger and I left the room. ‘So they are not going to arrest him,’ I thought with relief, as I went upstairs to find myself a book.

A few minutes later I heard my father come upstairs and go into my mother’s room. Anxious to know what was afoot, I got up and followed him. He was standing in the middle of the room, his face pale. ‘Come outside with me,’ he said in a tight voice. We went into my room. ‘I have just had to tell your mother,’ he began slowly, ‘that I shall be dead in a quarter of an hour.’ He was calm as he continued: ‘To die by the hand of one’s own people is hard. But the house is surrounded and Hitler is charging me with high treason. ’ “In view of my services in Africa,” ’ he quoted sarcastically, ‘I am to have the chance of dying by poison. The two generals have brought it with them. It’s fatal in three seconds. If I accept, none of the usual steps will be taken against my family, that is against you. They will also leave my staff alone.’

‘Do you believe it?’ I interrupted. ‘Yes,’ he replied. ‘I believe it. It is very much in their interest to see that the affair does not come out into the open. By the way, I have been charged to put you under a promise of the strictest silence. If a single word of this comes out, they will no longer feel themselves bound by the agreement.’

I tried again. ‘Can’t we defend ourselves.’ He cut me off short. ‘There’s no point,’ he said. ‘It’s better for one to die than for all of us to be killed in a shooting affray. Anyway, we’ve practically no ammunition.’ We briefly took leave of each other. ‘Call Aldinger, please,’ he said.

Aldinger had meanwhile been engaged in conversation by the General’s escort to keep him away from my father. At my call, he came running upstairs. He, too, was struck cold when he heard what was happening. My father now spoke more quickly. He again said how useless it was to attempt to defend ourselves. ‘It’s all been prepared to the last detail. I’m to be given a state funeral. I have asked that it should take place in Ulm. [a town near Rommel’s home] In a quarter of an hour, you, Aldinger, will receive a telephone call from the Wagnerschule reserve hospital in Ulm to say that I’ve had a brain seizure on the way to a conference.’ He looked at his watch. ‘I must go, they’ve only given me ten minutes.’ He quickly took leave of us again. Then we went downstairs together.

We helped my father into his leather coat. Suddenly he pulled out his wallet. ‘There’s still 150 marks in there,’ he said. ‘Shall I take the money with me?’

‘That doesn’t matter now, Herr Field Marshal,’ said Aldinger.

My father put his wallet carefully back in his pocket. As he went into the hall, his little dachshund which he had been given as a puppy a few months before in France, jumped up at him with a whine of joy. ‘Shut the dog in the study, Manfred,’ he said, and waited in the hall with Aldinger while I removed the excited dog and pushed it through the study door. Then we walked out of the house together. The two generals were standing at the garden gate. We walked slowly down the path, the crunch of the gravel sounding unusually loud.

As we approached the generals they raised their right hands in salute. ‘Herr Field Marshal,’ Burgdorf said shortly and stood aside for my father to pass through the gate. A knot of villagers stood outside the drive.

The car stood ready. The S.S. driver swung the door open and stood to attention. My father pushed his Marshal’s baton under his left arm, and with his face calm, gave Aldinger and me his hand once more before getting in the car.

The two generals climbed quickly into their seats and the doors were slammed. My father did not turn again as the car drove quickly off up the hill and disappeared round a bend in the road. When it had gone Aldinger and I turned and walked silently back into the house.

Twenty minutes later the telephone rang. Aldinger lifted the receiver and my father’s death was duly reported.

It was not then entirely clear, what had happened to him after he left us. Later we learned that the car had halted a few hundred yards up the hill from our house in an open space at the edge of the wood. Gestapo men, who had appeared in force from Berlin that morning, were watching the area with instructions to shoot my father down and storm the house if he offered resistance. Maisel and the driver got out of the car, leaving my father and Burgdorf inside. When the driver was permitted to return ten minutes or so later, he saw my father sunk forward with his cap off and the marshal’s baton fallen from his hand.”

— Manfred Rommel, son of Erwin Rommel